This Counts
September 2011
Name: Jackie Cheney
Age: 35
Occupation: Mom, Medical Assistant at Primary Health Medical Group • Boise. ID
A few weeks ago, my sister Natalie introduced me to one of her readers, Jackie Cheney. Natalie receives a lot of emails from men and women who have been profoundly affected by her memoir, Signs of Life. This book deals with a universal emotion that I really wish wasn’t so universal: Grief. That little word, a single syllable just sitting there in black and white, has the power to sink my heart to the pit of my stomach. But the stories from women like Natalie and Jackie are ultimately about what lifts our hearts, not what makes them sink. There is a much better monosyllabic word to describe what I feel when I think about the Natalies and the Jackies of the world. It looks better in black and white and it feels better to say. That word is Hope.
Jackie lost her second son, Elam John Cheney, on May 22, 2009. Elam was stillborn due to an abrupted placenta. Not only was Jackie dealing with the loss of her son, she was dealing with the failure of her own body. Jackie was able to get pregnant again but continued to be confronted with the fragileness of her body and her baby.
"There is something very defeating to have your body fail and lose your child. I was far from a physically, mentally healthy person."
When Jackie picked up Natalie’s book, she found herself forced to live through emotions and grief that she had been ignoring for years. But what she also found in that book and within herself was overwhelming inspiration to truly rehabilitate herself mentally and physically. The aspect of recovery that Jackie discussed with me was the implementation of an exercise regime and goal setting. Jackie set out to train for and complete a triathlon with her friend and constant support, Chelsi. In our interview I asked Jackie to elaborate on her mental and physical transformation. Here are some excerpts from our talk that I hope will be helpful to others open to finding mental well-being through physical means.
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